Bullying in the Workplace: Recognising It and Knowing What to Do
When we think of bullying, we often picture school playgrounds. But the truth is, bullying doesn’t always stop when we grow up. In fact, many adults experience it in the one place we least expect it—work.
What Does Workplace Bullying Look Like?
Workplace bullying is more than just the occasional rude comment or workplace tension. It’s repeated, harmful behaviour that undermines, humiliates, or intimidates someone. It might come from a colleague, a manager, or even a group.
Common examples include:
- Exclusion from meetings or conversations
- Micromanaging or setting unrealistic expectations
- Verbal abuse, sarcasm, or criticism that crosses the line
- Spreading rumours or targeting someone socially
- Sabotaging someone’s work or stealing credit
Sometimes, it’s obvious. Other times, it’s subtle and ongoing, making it harder to spot—and even harder to speak up about.
Why It Matters
Bullying at work can seriously affect your mental and physical health. Many people report feeling anxious, depressed, or even physically ill. Sleep suffers. Confidence fades. You start doubting your abilities—and your worth.
And it doesn’t just hurt the individual. A workplace with unchecked bullying sees more stress, less productivity, higher staff turnover, and a toxic culture where people feel unsafe or unsupported.
Why People Stay Silent
Speaking up can feel incredibly difficult. Many people fear backlash or worry they won’t be taken seriously. Others may not even realise they’re being bullied—especially when it’s framed as “just tough feedback” or passed off as banter.
This is why building confidence and self-awareness is so important. When you trust yourself and your instincts, you’re more likely to recognise unhealthy behaviour—and take steps to address it.
What You Can Do
If you’re being bullied—or see it happening—here are some things that can help:
- Document everything
Keep a private record of what happened, when, and who was involved. - Talk to someone
Whether it’s HR, a union rep, or a trusted colleague, sharing what’s happening can bring clarity and support. - Know your rights
Read up on your company’s policies. Most employers have guidelines and responsibilities when it comes to harassment and bullying. - Take care of your mental wellbeing
Whether it’s through therapy, support networks, or self-development, prioritising your mental health is essential. - Build confidence and communication skills
Feeling confident in how you carry yourself—and how you respond to others—can make a huge difference. This doesn’t mean confronting a bully with aggression. It’s about learning to stand your ground respectfully, set boundaries, and ask for support when needed.
A Gentle Boost of Confidence
At SESMA Martial Arts, we help people—of all ages and walks of life—develop the kind of quiet confidence that carries into everyday life, including work. Through our workshops and adult classes, many find not just physical strength, but the courage to speak up, set healthy boundaries, and feel more in control.
It’s not about learning to fight. It’s about learning to stand tall.
If you or someone you know is struggling with confidence or dealing with workplace challenges, why not come along for a free trial class at SESMA? You might be surprised at how empowering it can be.
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